Here is a list of a few basics which will get us started before we get into the more nit picky rules.
- If you know it is getting close to dinner time, wash up so that when you are called, you can be ready to come right away. It is rude to keep people waiting.
- Go to the table as soon as you are called or the meal is announced for those of you out there who have private chefs or servants.
- Make yourself easy to look at as Ms. Tina suggests. Make sure you are clean and presentable. Clean shirt, clean face and hands and brushed hair.
- When you arrive at the table, do not start eating until all of the diners have arrived.
Thank goodness it is finally here. I have been teaching them table manners since the beginning of time, but some just don't stick. We have implemented a knife and fork rule. Meaning that at each meal they are giving the tools with which to eat properly. They are shown how to use these eating tools and we hope that they are used. We constantly remind them to use them. Tonight, Lukas was using his knife as a spinning wheel. He moved his plate over and flicked his knife. If spun around and around. Henry noticed how cool it looked and shoved his plate out of the way and proceeded to flick his knife. I grabbed Henry's before it hot over his milk but was too far away from Lukas'. I told him that a knife is to be used to cut your food and not as a toy. After 5 times of spinning his mean and me telling him to stop, he lost his knife privilege. Is it him missing out or really manners who are missing out, because now he can not cut his food or eat right. Oh well, I guess the novelty of having a knife will wear off and the games will subside. Henry on the other hand is particular to eating with his fingers. A normal meal consists of me saying, "Use your fork" and "NO fingers" at least 100 times.
I have to watch them like a hawk. If I leave the table or let me thoughts wonder for even a minute, I regret it. Tonight when I was day dreaming?? Not sure, I look over to my right and Lukas is standing next to Henry tossing food in Henry's open mouth. I have no idea how this started as I was sitting right next to them! I say, "No, no, no boys. No throwing food in Henry's mouth." Lukas responds by saying, but he has to eat all of his food if he wants dessert." Although I really liked his explanation for the need to throw food in his brothers mouth and the fact that he was being very helpful to his brother, I couldn't let it continue. It is day one of table manner after all, and I am on a mission.
I usually get them to wash their hands before dinner, but combing their hair and changing their shirt? Who am I kidding. And getting them to come to the table the first time I call, well I would probably faint. But I explained to the rules and we will see how they do tomorrow at breakfast.